Saawan Aaye, Barkha Gaaye, Bunde Bajaaye Sitaar, Iss Mausam Mein, Meri Jaan Tera… Tera Hi Intezaar, Tera Hi Intezaar…
Phoolon Ki Bahon Mein, Soi Hai Shabnam, Bheegi Bheegi Kaliyaan Chhede Sargam, Daali Kare Zankaar… Iss Mausam Mein… Meri Jaan Tera… Tera Hi Intezaar…
Fizaon Mein Suron Ki Mehfil Sajee Hai, Hawaon Ke Hoton Pe Baansuri Basi Hai, Tuzko Kare Woh Pukaar… Iss Mausam Mein… Meri Jaan Tera… Tera Hi Intezaar…
Yeh Boondon Ki Chham Chham, Teri Paayal Ki Rum Zum, Dekhu Jahan Tak, Dikhe Bas Tum Tum, Aur Jalwe Tere Be-sumaar… Iss Mausam Mein… Meri Jaan Tera… Tera Hi Intezaar…
A Baby Doll, on her sixth birthday, sings a poem written by her father.
Mama Ne Kahaa Tha, Papa Ne Likhi Hai, Ek Chhoti Si Kavita... Mera Naam Kavita Hai…
Mama Mujhko Kehti Hai, Phoolon Ki Daali Hoon, Papa Ne Yeh Likha Hai, Subah Ki Laali Hoon… Phoolon Ki Daali Ki, Subah Ki Laali Ki, Ek Chhoti Si Kavita… Mera Naam Kavita Hai…
Jab Mama Ruth Jaati Hai, Toh Papa Manaate Hai, Main Ruth Jaati Hoon, Toh Mujhko Sunaate Hai, Mama Ke Ruth Jane Ki, Mujhko Manaane Ki, Ek Chhoti Si Kavita……… Mera Naam Kavita Hai……
Mama Papa Ne Ek Dujhe Se, Bahot Pyaar Kiya Hai, Mere Khwaab Dekhe Hai, Mera Intezaar Kiya Hai, Mama Papa Ke Pyaar Ki Mere Aane Ke Intezaar Ki Ek Chhoti Si Kavita… Mera Naam Kavita Hai…
What a Girl Want ?
She was not one of those who can make your head turn.
However, there was something on her “Honey colored” oval face that literally compelled me to turn my head and look at her again. Behind my back, at Society’s Annual General Meeting, she was looking for a chair to have a seat. I took a chair besides one of my neighbors in second row. Couple of moments later, as my head turn, I saw her seated in first row. Her right profile, obstructed by lock of her hair, seemed intriguing. In thoughtful gesture, I tried to figure out “why she grabbed my attention so intensely!”
After meeting got over, one of the common friends introduced her to me as Sweetie, a Media Marketing Consultant. Shaking hands, I looked at her face. She smiled from the both the corners of her lips, hiding her front of mouth by twisting her lips inward into mouth. It suited to her and looked cute. A little glow on her “Honey colored” face seemed as pure as values of life. Her crystals like eyes were optimistic, looking for dreams of life. Her pouty lips with lightly applied lip gloss were appearing desirous to have a taste of life. There was no sign of any other make up. I felt she was simply herself.
I felt like the question - “why she grabbed my attention so intensely!” – was melted in my thought process and was not ready to leave my mind.
After that day, she met me few times on the way walking up on the stair…After few “Hallos” and “Hi-s”; she took almost couple of months to get friendly with me. Many times, from ground floor to third floor, we exchanged little tits bits about neta to abhineta, job to employer, tv to movie, life to death, pin to plane and lots of worthless trivial stuff. At third floor she used to take right and I walk up to my apartment on fourth. Slowly and gradually, she opened up and we got to little personal matters.
One fine evening, I got into compound of my building and saw Sweetie, bowed down to a car window, talking to the people in the car. As car moved, she waved at them. When the car disappeared, she saw me and we got along.
“So…what’s going on?” I asked as usual.
“Had some guests…” She said with her typical smile twisting lips inward.
While walking up, she said that those people had come to see her.
“Then what happened?” I asked naturally.
“They said they will let us know…But I know they are not going to…”
And she got silent in thoughtful gesture.
“Sweetie, why don’t you try around your work place…you may find someone interesting…”
“I did, dear…” She said in wet voice: -“All the young ones seemed childish, and matured ones were too old by their thoughts.”
Her views were as clear as a crystal. She definitely knew what exactly she was looking for.
“Sweetie, tell me in one sentence, what exactly you are looking for?”
With sadden smile, she thought for a while and said: - “a simple person, you know …like when he puts his hand on my head and say – I love you, I should cry …”
The ongoing struggle, to find happiness, had made her so sensitive that an intense affection with warm tenderness would have been more than enough for her to live the life. As her eyes were about to swell up, I wanted to stop the conversation on the particular topic.
“You know Sweetie; I really appreciate the clarity of your thoughts…and I am sure you will definitely get what you want…”
Saying thanks, with her typical smile, she left leaving blue moments in my heart.
In life, sometime we only can try! Why we are not able to do what we want? Why Almighty God has given us the power just to try, not to make anything happen? With all those unanswered questions, I saw her going into her apartment. And then helplessly I headed to mine.
I think life is all about trying, not to make anything happen. As if keep on trying something will surely happen.
In the compound, three friends, living in my building, were chatting with each other. One of them, saying 'Hi', stopped me and asked about Sweetie. May be they might have seen me talking to her few times on staircase and thought she was quite friendly with me. Before I utter a single word, the second one told to first one: “If you really want to hang out, why Sweetie? Hang out with some better girl, yaar...” Remaining two of them smiled at each other sarcastically. I couldn’t. Clenching my teeth in resentment, I tempted to smack him and scream at him: - “You cheappo…she won’t even look at a jerk like you…” However, I couldn’t do that. I left the place and was en route to my apartment.
Prudent always said: Understand the people before making them friends. Know them thoroughly before getting into any relationship. While walking up on the stair, I was embarrassed and feeling sorry for myself for having such friends. At the fourth floor, getting into my apartment, I recollected, Sweetie had taken quite long time to get friendly with me.
As time passed, many times, mostly in the evening, I observed her a bit exhausted. On the way up, I frequently felt her short of breath - a sign of stress. I knew she was not one of those who get tired by long hours of work. The reason of exhaustion may be stressful work environment or her efforts were not being appreciated. To get rid of stress, I advise her to meditate, at least 15 minutes a day. I have no Idea whether she followed it or not. However as far as I know, her stress will be dissolved completely with only one remedy, and that is Love, Intense Love..!
She lived with her parents. Mom and Dad, Government Servants, were as simple as their daughter. As other parents do have, they also had some dreams for her loved one. Working very hard, they literally devoted their lives for her. They got her educated as per best of their financial capabilities. Obviously they were pretty contented with their labor of love. At every step of life, whether it is school, college, education, career, vacation, food, festival, clothes, jewelries, function, wedding, even evening breakfast, or teaching of virtues, daughter remained first priority, everything else came second. From choosing education stream, college, and career, they gave her complete freedom. Now getting her married and seeing her happy was the ultimate objective of their lives.
Her parents had an arranged marriage and they were happy. Obviously, for them, arranged marriage has been a definition of a happy life. They have been anticipating the same for her daughter; however their anticipation was not too rigid either. They have just been helping daughter find a compatible life partner from their community and culture. Eventually daughter’s decision would have been the ultimate one.
In the age of Pizzas, Burgers and Colas, she prefers home cooked food. In the age of Video Games and play stations, she still is dying to read books of her favorite writers. In the age of time-pass dating, she is looking for a life partner who really understands her. I would really salute her parents who raised her traditionally in untraditional environment of today’s time.
And she obviously was aware of her parents’ devotion. She also loved them at best of her level. She loved Dad most; however mom was closer to her. I remember. Once I had asked her: -“Who is your Idol in life.” She spontaneously had said: - “My Dad…” I asked her: -“Why?” With blossoming smile, she had said: - “No matter whatever I do, he never yells at me.” At that time, I knew that she is looking for a reflection of her father in her prospective life partner, who really understands her. Once, talking to her, I learned that she will never mind if her spouse loves her a little less than she expects. But she may not be able to bear if her spouse doesn’t respect her parents.
As a daughter, she is looking for an individual who can be -->mischievous like a boyfriend, who can love her intensely like a husband, who can understand her like her mother, who can take care of her like a father, and who can adore her like a bother that she doesn’t have. On the other hand, as a matured youngster, she has been craving for some of the dreamy desires. She has been imagining for someone, who can take her on the beach, who can run bare feet on splashing water, who can get wet with her in the rain, who can gift her a single flower, who can put his hand on her head, who can make her cry, who can make her laugh, who can celebrate love anniversary, who can make her sleep, who can wake her up, who can cook for her, who can feed her, who can respect her, who can adore her, who can love her intensely…yes who can love her only…not anybody else.
And she is highly optimistic. She believes her dreams will definitely come true. She also had passed on her faith to her parents. They all believe that someone has already been made for her and will pop up at right time. Dreams of happiness, love for each other, devotion for loved ones, squabbles for betterment, and respect for all have made their life worth living. It’s a happy, contented, and closely knitted family. Everyone was giving something to others without any expectation and everyone was getting beyond their expectations.
I see her almost every day. We talk about everything from pin to plane. She works. She dreams. She hopes. She searches. She struggles. She smiles and keeps on smiling…of course, hiding her front of mouth by twisting her lips inward, very cute!!! She is cheerful. She is happy and desperately waiting for her dreams come true.
When I saw her first time, I was not able to figure out “why she grabbed my attention so intensely.” But now I knew. It was the reflection of her 'Beautiful Heart' on her face that had grabbed my attention so intensely.
From the bottom of my heart, from the core of my soul, I wish her all the best because she is the best and she deserves the best, all of the best in life.
The Love Story of a Table and a Chair...
The building was recently built. The office on the first floor had been furnished just before a couple of days. The rectangular space, quite narrow in width, had 45 cubicles on the right and the space to move around to the left. The Manager's space, with divider, was located at the end, which was completely empty. The new iMac on every cubicle and revolving small plush chair in front has been urbanizing the office appearance.
The office room was filled with light uproar. The iMacs, Cubicles and Chairs have been muttering as if they were having an introductory meeting and talking about this new location.
Suddenly, the office door opened. Three porters entered lifting a huge brown wooden table. All the furniture-friends, especially chairs, turned their heads to the gate. The Table was so large and heavy that the porters had little difficulty moving to the managers’ space. As they were heading, chairs were also turning their heads along with their movement having their mouth opened, as if they were awestruck with dark and handsome table.
Finally the porters positioned the table at right place. After a long journey in the truck, the table took a sigh of relief and looked around. Amid eclectic ambience and furniture-friends, he felt himself proud of being a manager’s table. While looking around, he felt little disappointed, as he didn’t find any chair compatible with him.
Next day, the peon entered into the office pushing a slick wooden chair towards manager’s space. As the revolving Chair was made of teak wood, it looked quite fair. Her small wooden seating and curved narrow back, embedded with leather cushions, made her tall and slim.
As the peon placed the chair and pushed in a leg room under the table, chair’s arm brushed up with the table top and the table felt a shudder of emotions. He clenched his fist and jerked into the air couple of times in a joyful gesture. He felt, he found The Chair that seemed compatible to him. The Table and The Chair were so matched, as if the chair designer had harmonized leather cushions of the chair with dark brown body of the table.
“Hey…”The Table broke the ice in welcoming voice:-“Glad to see you here…Babe…”
“Me too …” Chair reply ardently.
“You look very sexy, Babe…”Looking at her body and winking at her, The Table praised her a little hesitantly.
“Hey Tayboo… “The Chair said a little mischievously: - “Are you like checkin me out a what?”
“I’mma just flirting Babe…” The Table asserted and ask:-“but what does ‘Tayboo’ mean?”
“It’s like your new name …”Widening her eyes The Chair informed: -”I hope you liked it…”
“Oh yaa Babe…” Table said happily: - “In fact I loved that…”
“You seem to be a nice Table…”
“And you…a nice chair…Babe…”The Table said graciously and scratching his head, he lost in thoughtful gesture.
“Hey Tayboo…” The Chair looked at him and inquired:-“Are you like thinkin somethin?”
“Thinkin some name…like you did for me… Babe…” Still Tayboo was scratching his head.
“Wow…Did you get any? “ The Chair asked curiously.
“Kind of…” Tayboo again winked at chair and asked her:-”May I call yaa ChiChi?”
“Sooooo Sweeeeeeet…” Rounding her lips, closing her eyes in ecstasy for a moment, extending the vowels, she said with giggle: - “Tayboo…when you speak Chichi…It’s like tingles me…”
Both of them burst out into laughter.
“By the way where you are born Tayboo?” Controlling her giggle, she asked.
“USA…” Tayboo replied spontaneously.
“You mean America?” She asked in unbelievable state.
“No, ChiChi…”Tayboo said:-”I am from Ulhasnagar Sindhi Association…”
ChiChi again laughed out loud.
“And where are you…born ChiChi?” Tayboo asked.
“Dharavi…”
“Unbelievable…” Tayboo shook his head in denial: - “Such a sexy chair and born in Dharavi… unbelievable…”
“Yea…I was born in top designers’ furniture-factory in Dharavi…”
And then…in the midst of talking, smiling, giggling, and laughing, the love story of Tayboo and ChiChi kicked off.
They were so talkative that every moment they had something to say to each other. Probably, they had natural flair of constant conversation.
Whenever Tayboo and ChiChi touched each other, Tayboo never missed the chance to kiss her. Tayboo always loved to see her blushing and hiding her face with her palms. And the Manager, while leaving, always pushed the chair deep down into the leg room in such a way that the chair’s back touched the table top. Tayboo used to hug her, clinch her and keep her in his arms for whole of the night, kissed her numerous times, and never let her go away.
As their romance was blossoming like a flower in spring, Tayboo and ChiChi were talk of the workplace. Witnessing their romance, all the furniture-friends in the office were jealous of them. In a few weeks, the bond of relationship has gotten stronger and stronger. However, Manager’s behaviour to the chair was little doubtful. Tayboo and ChiChi felt the fear of being separated.
Unfortunately, a day came, their fear came true. The human became inhuman. The Manager didn’t feel comfortable with wooden chair - ChiChi. And Tayboo-ChiChi dreams of remaining together for life time were shattered. They were shocked. And they broke down completely, when ChiChi was replaced with a Fat Brown Plush Executive Comfortable Leather Chair.
All the furniture friends in the office were also saddened with Tayboo-ChiChi separation. ChiChi was pushed to the small reception area at the entrance and placed with two other common chairs. Looking at those two plastic chairs, ChiChi turned her face away as if they were not up to her standard. In few days, being at the reception, she observed that the people preferred common chairs to have seat. She understood that she was not as comfortable as plastic chairs. She had to compromise with her ego.
Time never stops. ChiChi had accepted that to live with Tayboo for whole of the life was not possible. However, she at least had a consolation that she was in the same room and Tayboo was in front of her eyes. She may not talk to him or romance with him but she was able to see him. She decided to live whole of her life just seeing him.
Happiness and sorrow are two wheels of life cycle. Happiness follows after sorrow and sorrow after happiness. Without sorrow we can’t understand the happiness and vice versa. After few years, the human again became inhuman. The owner of the company bought another two adjacent offices of the floor and decided to connect them all in one. And one fine day, the renovation began.
The truck was being unloaded. Two guys hurled the table – Tayboo – and tossed him in one of the corner of Junk Yard. In next round, one of the two guys flung the chair – ChiChi – in the same corner where Tayboo was thrown. After few moments, they recognised each other and their eyes filled with tears, as if after a long painful waiting, their dream to live together came true. Sobbing and crying, they shared the joy of meeting again and finally slept in each other’s arms.
Suddenly, at midnight, some screaming and disturbing noise woke Tayboo and ChiChi up. As their eyes opened they saw that the whole Junk Yard was wrapped up in fire. Raging fire was blazing up high. Tayboo and ChiChi saw the owner of the Junk Yard and the workers running away saving their lives. There wasn’t a single human who can get them out of the blazing fire. Both of them realized that their lives are about to end. As rapidly moving flames of fire touched them, they screamed in burning pain. The flames were rising up from legs to body and they were not able to see and tolerate their bodies scorching.
With tears in their eyes and pain of burning body, they looked at each other. ChiChi said to Tayboo: - “Hey Tayboo… Don’t cry Baby…Don’t cry…Lovers, you know, always struggle to live together in life…Nobody think of dying together…May be they don’t know that this life is just a stopover, a halt for few years… For us, this stopover is ending now and we are gonna be heading to the Eternal Journey…Eternal Journey with Almighty God…We are one of the luckiest ones who die together to remain together for the Eternal Journey of millions of years…Now nobody will be able to separate us…Tayboo, Nobody…We are gonna be together for millions of years…millions of years…baby…millions of years… ”
And ChiChi broke down in tears. Tayboo embraced her and within few seconds the flames enveloped them completely. Few moments later, they got silent, they turned into ashes.
After few minutes, two small flames got separated from the blazing fire and rose up side by side, as if holding their hands. They flew up in the sky and kept on flying up and at a point of time disappeared into the universe.
To remain together, they already had started an eternal journey...an eternal journey of millions of years...
I generally write about the relationship between man and woman. This post is about marketing. However, if you look closely, marketing is also about maintaining the relationship between service provider and the end user,
manufacturer and consumer, and professional and client.
“Come on…” Heading to the parking lot, I waved him to follow me:”I will drop you.” “Thank you so… much, “He, lifting his suitcase again, said delightedly and followed me. On the way to the Hotel, we had interesting conversation. He, Geoff Sprouce, was a corporate executive, specialized in turning around the sinking companies. He had a contract with a company in the area and he was going to work there for long time. I dropped him at the Hotel. He checked in. I met my Manager-Friend, chatted for a while and then Left. Next day, in the evening, when I was leaving for the day, I saw Geoff getting out of the Cab in the parking lot. I waited to talk to him. He paid to the cab and came to me, told me that he already had checked in my Hotel before going to office and he was so happy with the quality of the room that he wanted to extend for the whole of the month. We both came back in the hotel. I gave him a better deal and he extended his stay for a month. After that day, we became friends. Almost every evening he looked for me and we chatted about pin to plane. He was a delight to talk with. He stayed for one and half year. After couple of months, I even advised him to rent an apartment, which could be cheaper than this room. He smiled:-“Yes I can, but you won’t be there…“ That was a great compliment. During his stay, he introduced six of his friends, who stayed couple of days every week for a long time. I received quite good business from his recommendations. When I met him first time, I had never expected anything. As time passed, what I got was beyond my expectation. No matter what you do, selling a product, rendering service or promoting yourself, marketing means to go beyond the expectations of your customer, client, guest or your employer. Period. Relationship is also just like marketing. You just have to give and keep on giving without any expectation. If you do so, sooner or later, you will also get “beyond” your expectation. Believe Me! ;)
Marriage is not a culmination of romance, it is beginning... Gray hairs have been started to surface on his head. He might have tried but ream less glasses couldn’t hide the faint wrinkles around his eyes. Standing against the glass wall, sipping his early morning coffee, he was enjoying lightly falling snow outside. Wife, Jenny, in the kitchen, was busy with routine chores.
A tall and slender, teenage blonde girl – Angel - emerged from the room. Reaching behind him, enveloping her hands around his body, she whispered into his ears: “Happy Wedding Anniversary, Dad…”
For a moment, his face froze, as if he was not able to respond his daughter. He again failed to remember his wedding anniversary. A couple of moments later, turning around to poignant smile on his face, he put his hand on her head and could whisper guiltily: “Thanks, Hon.” She smiled and was en route to the kitchen.
He turned and stared into blank as if he was recollecting his past.
He was the same person, who struggled for hours to find a fresh Red Rose for Jennifer - Waited for hours in the parking lot - Sent poetic SMSes every hour - Walking with her on the sprawling waves - Blue tooth into ears, talking all night long and having early morning breakfast at IHOP – Feeding chocolate covered strawberries to each other - He savored every moment with her.
The morning started with making Irish Cream coffee for her and she made black coffee for him. He made her breakfast and she made his - Getting into a shower together – Going to work and dropping her to her office. During work hours, their Blue Tooth always remained plugged into their ears. Picking her up from work and mostly going to Restaurant for dinner. At home, sitting in front of TV, talking more and watching less. The nights had always been intoxicating. Touching, caressing, kissing every pore of the body and wild sex remained at the ultimate level. He loved like a crazy and she blossomed like a flower. They didn’t know when her stomach was bulging amid giggles, laughing, loving, sharing the joy of being married. Once in a while, she started feeling little uneasy. Medical tests revealed that she is carrying.
The child to be born took the center stage of their life. He got more careful handling her. As much as possible he didn’t let her do any household chores. He was more watchful for her exercise and diet. He used to help her to prepare prescribed nutritious food for her. Every morning holding the tray of freshly cut fruits, he had to literally run around her to feed her, as she wasn’t a great fan of fruits. Sometimes she felt so overwhelmed that she thanked God for bestowing the moments she always dreamt of.
In a hospital, he witnessed the birth of an extremely beautiful baby girl, as decided, was named Angel. When he held her into his arms and touched her, awe-inspiring waves passed through his body. Now the focus shifted to baby. Romance was on the back burner and nobody was looking at whether that burner was lit or not.
Marriage comes with responsibilities. Responsibilities made them forget who they were and who they are now. After a long day, they get to home, love baby and collapse into bed exhausted. This doesn’t mean the basic element love has been evaporated or both are fed up with each other. It also doesn’t mean that the bond between two was dead. It simply means we’ve forgotten to keep the flame of our emotions burning.
Essentially, it is our tendency that we always run after the thing which is difficult to acquire. Once we acquire it, the significance of it always keeps decreasing. Monotony takes the place of excitement. When “Lover” becomes “spouse”, the “spouse” becomes “Ghar ki Murgi” (Home Made Chicken) and “Ghar Ki Murgi Is Daal Baraabar” (Homemade chicken is as good as unsavory Pulse Soup). And this tendency of ours gives the birth to the crisis which sometimes becomes difficult to resolve.
But being happily married is not as subtle as you think. There are some precise steps you can take to spice up your relationship. Let try to figure out some seasonings, which make relationship delicious and modify the method of cooking so that we can have delicious meal of the relationship.
Develop Positive Attitude: A Happy life starts with how you feel about yourself. If you have a positive outlook on life, then you are likely to share that happiness with others. Whenever any crisis arises, try to find out the solution patiently and get to the positive conclusion. If both of the partners try to think this then there won’t be any obstacle in the relationship.
Communicate with each other: Communication is the key to any relationship. If you don’t say what you think and how you feel on a certain subject, how your partner will be able to know what you are looking for. It is also important to communicate honestly, listen patiently and say uncomplainingly. Blaming or accusing never resolves any problem. Each one needs to put oneself in another’s position and evaluate oneself appropriately.
Compromise – Sacrifice: It is essential that the spouses are prepared to make sacrifices for each other. If one of the spouses is rather self centered and not willing to make sacrifices, the survival is likely difficult. It is not necessary that the sacrifice is a large one; as many a times small sacrifices that matter the most. If wife doesn’t like smoking, the husband should quit and on the other hand if the smoking is occasional, wife shouldn’t mind it either.
Be Romantic: Romance doesn’t mean Sex. Sex is an integral part of Romance. Romance appeals to the five senses of human beings. Sight, Smell, Sound, Taste, and Touch. It’s the emotional, spiritual, and physical link between two hearts and two souls. Say “I love you” even when not required. A sizzling kiss for no reason. Buy a copy of the Kama Sutra and gift to your partner. Romance is a spice in the relationship and it makes the relationship delicious.
Respect and Praise: You can do it by expressing small things. Giving compliments is a great way to let the other know that you care for your partner. “Looking sizzling today.” “I loved your thought.” “You look slim and fit.” Surprise gift of a single Red Rose may please your partner. It is not the flower; it’s feelings behind the flower that works. It shows how you care for her. Wife can do something husband loves most. So praise, respect and conquer the heart.
Spend Quality Time: While dating, couples spend more time with each other, but later they get busier with other things in life and sometimes they don’t have time to pay attention to each other. Spending less time together can cause couples to drift away. Take a break - take a vacation together to crack the monotony. Spend at least 15 minutes a day together. Keep your cell phone off for a day. Go for a quiet evening once a week. Spend quality time with each other because this is the most treasured gift you can give to your sweetheart.
Say Sorry Whenever Required: We are human and we make mistakes. When you realize that you have done something unpleasant, never hesitate to apologize. I know men generally don’t like to say sorry. Sorry is a magical word. It removes the doubts and clears misunderstandings. Make a habit of saying sorry whenever and wherever required.
Surprise With Affectionate Action: Go beyond the expectation. Do something unexpected, which your partner never imagines. Plan an unimaginable romantic getaway. Reserve a Hotel Room and spread rose petals on the way that leads to candle lit Jacuzzi. Write a Love Letter addressing your wife and post it to your own address. Go for some sexual fantasies. Take salsa lessons, get tickets for a live concert and go for a date. Use your imagination and creativity to surprise your partner romantically.
Make Your Bedroom Romantic: The bedroom is the most romantic place in the world. Color has a very strong and subtle effect on our senses. To create a romantic decor you should probably go for dimmer mood lighting. The bed is where mostly all actions take place. It has to be comfortable. Fabric should be luxurious and cozy. Try to find pieces of artifacts that evoke the intimacy. Scent is also a powerful stimulant. Finally, keep a copy of Kama-Sutra, an ancient guide to sensual pleasure.
Eat Delicious Food: Food is the heart of life. Food keeps you alive. It is said that the best way to anybody’s heart is delicious food. And I am telling you, it is true. Sometimes nothing inspires more than a mouthwatering meal and sweet treats. Experiment with different types, different continents. And yes, never forget something sweet at the end.
Have Sex Regularly: Sex is the ultimate joy of life. There is nothing more enjoyable than sex. Sex is the basic ingredient in the unity of man and woman. Just like food, water and air, sex is a need of human being. Sex keeps you close and intimate. Even scientifically it has been proved that sex keeps us healthy. So to spice up your relationship and life, have sex regularly.
Conclusion: We all are humans with different minds, different opinions, different philosophy and different approach towards life. When people with different kinds of minds get to gather at one place; conflicts are bound to take place. But any crisis in marriage can be resolved with love, respect, understanding, patience, trust and faith. We just have to keep in mind that Marriage Is Not an End of Romance; Marriage Is Beginning of Romance.
He, wiping the corner of his eyes, sighed. From the fifteenth floor, snow covered sprawling homes seemed as if sitting in the lap of his building. Snow had been slowed down, as if it was ending.
Angel – literally pulling - brought her mother Jennifer out of the Kitchen and made her stand in front of Daddy. Husband and wife gazed at each other strangely as if they are seeing after ages. Angel chirping, like a sparrow, said: “Happy Wedding Anniversary to both of you…” Drops of tears swelled up in their eyes.
Angel further said resolutely: “Dad, Kiss Mama… and Mama you kiss Dad…” They turned their gaze at Angel, who, unaware of detachment between Dad and mom, looked cheerful. They turned to each other and started sobbing as if they realized that they fail to appreciate each other and were regretful. Sobbing turned to weeping and he took hold of her into his arms. They let the grief get out through their eyes, then extended their hands at the little Angel and she cheerfully encircled her hands around them.
Outside the wall glass, the falling snow was stopped. White thick gloomy clouds had been dispersed. Sky was clearer as if it was making a way for the sun to come out. Faint golden rays from the horizon were filtering through the glass and illuminating the hall as well as the life.
Falling In Love Is Easy, Sustaining Is Difficult...
As per our mythological scripture, God created a Man (Adam). There wasn’t any other creature to identify with him. So God formed a woman as man’s companion. Gradually longing to be together was born between Man and Woman. By the time passed, longing turned into an attraction and being attracted to each other was named as Love. This love later became the integral part of our existence. And then with the evolution of mankind, human became self centered. Loving and being loved turned out to be complex.
However, today, love is stimulated by the waves of infatuation. By creating artificial personality and putting a little extra effort, one can compel other to fall in love. But as and when the real persona of one surface, other feels a bump and frustration gets in and Love starts disappointing. Instead of bonding, disagreement takes place in our relationship.
The reason is, in today’s society, everyone carries the bundle of expectations on their heads and package of dreams in their eyes. Everyone is taming identical ideology. Amid this environment, falling in love often seems quite easy, but sustaining the same love has become a bit difficult.
If we try to figure out honestly, we will observe that the problem lies within us only. We are holding out our attitude, our rigid views in our hands and they don’t allow us to give up.
In the midst of this situation, there is a hope. By practicing few behavioral elements, one can sustain love truly.
Let’s try to comprehend how can we do it?
Surrender: The first and foremost step is to surrender. Get out of self-centered attitude. Throw away the selfish views and so called self esteem. Get all negative aspects out of the life. Certainly, it is difficult; but not impossible.
Conversation: Talk. Talk to each other positively. Talk to resolve the crisis. Blaming will worsen the situation. Positive conversation will carve the way out to the path of resolution.
Understand: It’s been long you have been walking on the wrong way thinking about yourself. If you try to understand what your partner is looking for out of the relationship, half of the crisis will be resolved immediately.
Have Patience: Patience is a weapon that is always compelling others to realize. Have patience, as this change over of personality takes time. Rush will stop the process of change over.
Compromise: When reaching to the conclusion, avoid sticking to your guns rigidly. Confrontation at all times worsens the situation and takes you back to the square. If you compromise, your partner will also follow you.
Giveaway: Give Away! Don’t expect anything in return while you give away. If both of the partners tries to give something away to each other without any expectation, both of the partners will get more or less what they are looking for.
Conclusion: You’re not going to get the life ever again. With the due respect to each other understand and love your partner at your best. Love is the only element that keeps your relationship healthy and life worth living.
Saawan Aaye,
