Wishing You Very Romantic Valentine’s Day…
February has long been celebrated as a festival of love across the world. The symbols of LOVE – candies, flowers, gifts - are exchanged between loved ones. Parties, dinners, plays, and entertainment are organized for the celebration. For this day, writers, poets, and thinkers have said a lot about LOVE.
Let’s try to understand some of their rare views and the significance of the feeling called LOVE.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. -Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. -Lao Tzu
Age does not protect you from love. But love, to some extent, protects you from age. -Anais Nin
Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward in the same direction. -Antoine de Saint-Exupery
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. -Helen Keller
Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell. -Joan Crawford
If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything. -Marilyn Monroe
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love. -Tom Robbins
Love is like the wind, you can't see it but you can feel it. -Nicholas Sparks, A Walk to Remember
When love is not madness it is not love. -Pedro Calderón de la Barca
One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving. -Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it. -Candace Bushnell (Sex and the City)
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. -Albert Einstein
True love is rare, and it's the only thing that gives life real meaning. -Nicholas Sparks, Message in a Bottle
Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love. -Mother Teresa
Where there is love there is life. -Mahatma Gandhi
And finally…
You need solid guts to love someone. -Ananth Vitlani
Love means to think good for others, to feel good for others, and to do good for others. Love means to give away without any expectation.
Love has different meanings, different shapes, different sizes, different colors, different nature, and different feelings. Love is very complex. More you know less you learn, less you know more you feel. It is enough to know that LOVE is LOVE, nothing more and nothing less. Period.
Love spans throughout every aspect of the life and it’s up to all of us how we celebrate LOVE!? The ultimate objective is to put a little smile on somebody’s lips.:)
It is believed that beautiful girls have always been looking for handsome guys as a life partner. However, new findings go against this belief. Now-a-days Beautiful Girls Are Not Looking for handsome guys!
I have asked one of my young, bubbliest and charming colleagues: - “What kind of boy are you looking for as your life partner?”
With a beautiful broad smile, she said: “Oh my God…that’s difficult question…” After a few moments of thoughtful gaze into the blank, her first answer was: “One whose nature is good.” Then she had a list of the qualities that she was looking for in a life partner to be. Surprisingly, “the look” was at the bottom of her priorities. Then after, I have tried to find an answer from few more friends of mine and the responses were almost similar to first one. Most of the girls are looking for an individual, whose nature is good and good look would be an added advantage.
If we define “the nature”, it can be good sides of a person’s character. In fact, “Good Nature” is a package of good qualities. Whatever may be the reason, but now-a-days the girls have understood that “the look” sometime can be deceptive and leads to nowhere. They are looking for the relationship, which provides core values of life such as Love, Respect, Care, and Honesty.
Let us figure out how these qualities are important in life:-
Honesty: -
As it is said that honesty is the best policy. Honesty creates the trust, trust forms the bond, and this bond makes the relationship long lasting and happy.
Care: -
Girls are looking for total attention. Care means to think about her goodness, her comfort, her well being, her ideology, her attitude. Care indicates complete dedication to her all the time. Love: -
Without love we cannot live. As we need food, water, and air to live, love is an added factor to survive blissfully. Love is a basic and the only element that keeps life healthy, happy, and worth living.
Respect: -
Respect is a sense of worth. Girls are looking for a certain level of regards from their life partners. They want to make sure the importance of them in their lives. Girls are looking for the life partner, who admire her ideology and go along with it.
Look: -
Good look draws most of the girls, but it may not make them happy ultimately. The look can be the window to get into a relationship, but look may not create long lasting relationships. Today, the girls are looking for happy relationships, which is based on good values of life, not on the look of the partner.
And these are the reasons that Beautiful Girls Are Not Looking For Handsome Guys. Before being attracted, they would weigh up as a complete package of good qualities; they will look for the core values of life in a prospective life partner.
So, normal looking guys with the above qualities certainly have a reason to celebrate, as you’ve got the chance to become a darling of most beautiful woman on this earth.
What a Girl Want ?
She was not one of those who can make your head turn.
However, there was something on her “Honey colored” oval face that literally compelled me to turn my head and look at her again. Behind my back, at Society’s Annual General Meeting, she was looking for a chair to have a seat. I took a chair besides one of my neighbors in second row. Couple of moments later, as my head turn, I saw her seated in first row. Her right profile, obstructed by lock of her hair, seemed intriguing. In thoughtful gesture, I tried to figure out “why she grabbed my attention so intensely!”
After meeting got over, one of the common friends introduced her to me as Sweetie, a Media Marketing Consultant. Shaking hands, I looked at her face. She smiled from the both the corners of her lips, hiding her front of mouth by twisting her lips inward into mouth. It suited to her and looked cute. A little glow on her “Honey colored” face seemed as pure as values of life. Her crystals like eyes were optimistic, looking for dreams of life. Her pouty lips with lightly applied lip gloss were appearing desirous to have a taste of life. There was no sign of any other make up. I felt she was simply herself.
I felt like the question - “why she grabbed my attention so intensely!” – was melted in my thought process and was not ready to leave my mind.
After that day, she met me few times on the way walking up on the stair…After few “Hallos” and “Hi-s”; she took almost couple of months to get friendly with me. Many times, from ground floor to third floor, we exchanged little tits bits about neta to abhineta, job to employer, tv to movie, life to death, pin to plane and lots of worthless trivial stuff. At third floor she used to take right and I walk up to my apartment on fourth. Slowly and gradually, she opened up and we got to little personal matters.
One fine evening, I got into compound of my building and saw Sweetie, bowed down to a car window, talking to the people in the car. As car moved, she waved at them. When the car disappeared, she saw me and we got along.
“So…what’s going on?” I asked as usual.
“Had some guests…” She said with her typical smile twisting lips inward.
While walking up, she said that those people had come to see her.
“Then what happened?” I asked naturally.
“They said they will let us know…But I know they are not going to…”
And she got silent in thoughtful gesture.
“Sweetie, why don’t you try around your work place…you may find someone interesting…”
“I did, dear…” She said in wet voice: -“All the young ones seemed childish, and matured ones were too old by their thoughts.”
Her views were as clear as a crystal. She definitely knew what exactly she was looking for.
“Sweetie, tell me in one sentence, what exactly you are looking for?”
With sadden smile, she thought for a while and said: - “a simple person, you know …like when he puts his hand on my head and say – I love you, I should cry …”
The ongoing struggle, to find happiness, had made her so sensitive that an intense affection with warm tenderness would have been more than enough for her to live the life. As her eyes were about to swell up, I wanted to stop the conversation on the particular topic.
“You know Sweetie; I really appreciate the clarity of your thoughts…and I am sure you will definitely get what you want…”
Saying thanks, with her typical smile, she left leaving blue moments in my heart.
In life, sometime we only can try! Why we are not able to do what we want? Why Almighty God has given us the power just to try, not to make anything happen? With all those unanswered questions, I saw her going into her apartment. And then helplessly I headed to mine.
I think life is all about trying, not to make anything happen. As if keep on trying something will surely happen.
In the compound, three friends, living in my building, were chatting with each other. One of them, saying 'Hi', stopped me and asked about Sweetie. May be they might have seen me talking to her few times on staircase and thought she was quite friendly with me. Before I utter a single word, the second one told to first one: “If you really want to hang out, why Sweetie? Hang out with some better girl, yaar...” Remaining two of them smiled at each other sarcastically. I couldn’t. Clenching my teeth in resentment, I tempted to smack him and scream at him: - “You cheappo…she won’t even look at a jerk like you…” However, I couldn’t do that. I left the place and was en route to my apartment.
Prudent always said: Understand the people before making them friends. Know them thoroughly before getting into any relationship. While walking up on the stair, I was embarrassed and feeling sorry for myself for having such friends. At the fourth floor, getting into my apartment, I recollected, Sweetie had taken quite long time to get friendly with me.
As time passed, many times, mostly in the evening, I observed her a bit exhausted. On the way up, I frequently felt her short of breath - a sign of stress. I knew she was not one of those who get tired by long hours of work. The reason of exhaustion may be stressful work environment or her efforts were not being appreciated. To get rid of stress, I advise her to meditate, at least 15 minutes a day. I have no Idea whether she followed it or not. However as far as I know, her stress will be dissolved completely with only one remedy, and that is Love, Intense Love..!
She lived with her parents. Mom and Dad, Government Servants, were as simple as their daughter. As other parents do have, they also had some dreams for her loved one. Working very hard, they literally devoted their lives for her. They got her educated as per best of their financial capabilities. Obviously they were pretty contented with their labor of love. At every step of life, whether it is school, college, education, career, vacation, food, festival, clothes, jewelries, function, wedding, even evening breakfast, or teaching of virtues, daughter remained first priority, everything else came second. From choosing education stream, college, and career, they gave her complete freedom. Now getting her married and seeing her happy was the ultimate objective of their lives.
Her parents had an arranged marriage and they were happy. Obviously, for them, arranged marriage has been a definition of a happy life. They have been anticipating the same for her daughter; however their anticipation was not too rigid either. They have just been helping daughter find a compatible life partner from their community and culture. Eventually daughter’s decision would have been the ultimate one.
In the age of Pizzas, Burgers and Colas, she prefers home cooked food. In the age of Video Games and play stations, she still is dying to read books of her favorite writers. In the age of time-pass dating, she is looking for a life partner who really understands her. I would really salute her parents who raised her traditionally in untraditional environment of today’s time.
And she obviously was aware of her parents’ devotion. She also loved them at best of her level. She loved Dad most; however mom was closer to her. I remember. Once I had asked her: -“Who is your Idol in life.” She spontaneously had said: - “My Dad…” I asked her: -“Why?” With blossoming smile, she had said: - “No matter whatever I do, he never yells at me.” At that time, I knew that she is looking for a reflection of her father in her prospective life partner, who really understands her. Once, talking to her, I learned that she will never mind if her spouse loves her a little less than she expects. But she may not be able to bear if her spouse doesn’t respect her parents.
As a daughter, she is looking for an individual who can be -->mischievous like a boyfriend, who can love her intensely like a husband, who can understand her like her mother, who can take care of her like a father, and who can adore her like a bother that she doesn’t have. On the other hand, as a matured youngster, she has been craving for some of the dreamy desires. She has been imagining for someone, who can take her on the beach, who can run bare feet on splashing water, who can get wet with her in the rain, who can gift her a single flower, who can put his hand on her head, who can make her cry, who can make her laugh, who can celebrate love anniversary, who can make her sleep, who can wake her up, who can cook for her, who can feed her, who can respect her, who can adore her, who can love her intensely…yes who can love her only…not anybody else.
And she is highly optimistic. She believes her dreams will definitely come true. She also had passed on her faith to her parents. They all believe that someone has already been made for her and will pop up at right time. Dreams of happiness, love for each other, devotion for loved ones, squabbles for betterment, and respect for all have made their life worth living. It’s a happy, contented, and closely knitted family. Everyone was giving something to others without any expectation and everyone was getting beyond their expectations.
I see her almost every day. We talk about everything from pin to plane. She works. She dreams. She hopes. She searches. She struggles. She smiles and keeps on smiling…of course, hiding her front of mouth by twisting her lips inward, very cute!!! She is cheerful. She is happy and desperately waiting for her dreams come true.
When I saw her first time, I was not able to figure out “why she grabbed my attention so intensely.” But now I knew. It was the reflection of her 'Beautiful Heart' on her face that had grabbed my attention so intensely.
From the bottom of my heart, from the core of my soul, I wish her all the best because she is the best and she deserves the best, all of the best in life.
Falling In Love Is Easy, Sustaining Is Difficult...
As per our mythological scripture, God created a Man (Adam). There wasn’t any other creature to identify with him. So God formed a woman as man’s companion. Gradually longing to be together was born between Man and Woman. By the time passed, longing turned into an attraction and being attracted to each other was named as Love. This love later became the integral part of our existence. And then with the evolution of mankind, human became self centered. Loving and being loved turned out to be complex.
However, today, love is stimulated by the waves of infatuation. By creating artificial personality and putting a little extra effort, one can compel other to fall in love. But as and when the real persona of one surface, other feels a bump and frustration gets in and Love starts disappointing. Instead of bonding, disagreement takes place in our relationship.
The reason is, in today’s society, everyone carries the bundle of expectations on their heads and package of dreams in their eyes. Everyone is taming identical ideology. Amid this environment, falling in love often seems quite easy, but sustaining the same love has become a bit difficult.
If we try to figure out honestly, we will observe that the problem lies within us only. We are holding out our attitude, our rigid views in our hands and they don’t allow us to give up.
In the midst of this situation, there is a hope. By practicing few behavioral elements, one can sustain love truly.
Let’s try to comprehend how can we do it?
Surrender: The first and foremost step is to surrender. Get out of self-centered attitude. Throw away the selfish views and so called self esteem. Get all negative aspects out of the life. Certainly, it is difficult; but not impossible.
Conversation: Talk. Talk to each other positively. Talk to resolve the crisis. Blaming will worsen the situation. Positive conversation will carve the way out to the path of resolution.
Understand: It’s been long you have been walking on the wrong way thinking about yourself. If you try to understand what your partner is looking for out of the relationship, half of the crisis will be resolved immediately.
Have Patience: Patience is a weapon that is always compelling others to realize. Have patience, as this change over of personality takes time. Rush will stop the process of change over.
Compromise: When reaching to the conclusion, avoid sticking to your guns rigidly. Confrontation at all times worsens the situation and takes you back to the square. If you compromise, your partner will also follow you.
Giveaway: Give Away! Don’t expect anything in return while you give away. If both of the partners tries to give something away to each other without any expectation, both of the partners will get more or less what they are looking for.
Conclusion: You’re not going to get the life ever again. With the due respect to each other understand and love your partner at your best. Love is the only element that keeps your relationship healthy and life worth living.
Hi, I am Ananth Vitlani, responsible for all writing on this blog.
Friends, I believe our existence is based on relationship. We will not be alive, if we are not related to each other in this world. Here I will write about relationships...Relationship between man & woman and human & human. When I think of relationship, I would certainly like to talk about some of the elements of relationship : Fascination of First Sight, Chemistry of Attraction, Reason of Infatuation, Language of Eyes, Warmth of Embrace, Fragrance of Breath, Taste of Lips, Tangles of Hair, Curves of Body, Intoxication of Perspiration, Expression of Feeling, Sweetness of Waiting, Tenderness of Petals, Price of Obsession, Size of Dreams, Euphoria of Love, Bond of Relationship, Rapture of Marriage, Pain of Heartbreak, Twinge of Parting Away, Heat of Tears, Sound of Cry, and all other relationship related "to-do-s", "not-to-do-s", and “how to do-s”, (not that “how to do”…Baby!!!!).
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