Beautiful Girls Are Not Looking For Handsome Guys

It is believed that beautiful girls have always been looking for handsome guys as a life partner. However, new findings go against this belief. Now-a-days Beautiful Girls Are Not Looking for handsome guys!

I have asked one of my young, bubbliest and charming colleagues: - “What kind of boy are you looking for as your life partner?”

With a beautiful broad smile, she said: “Oh my God…that’s difficult question…”  After a few moments of thoughtful gaze into the blank, her first answer was: “One whose nature is good.” Then she had a list of the qualities that she was looking for in a life partner to be. Surprisingly, “the look” was at the bottom of her priorities. Then after, I have tried to find an answer from few more friends of mine and the responses were almost similar to first one. Most of the girls are looking for an individual, whose nature is good and good look would be an added advantage.

If we define “the nature”, it can be good sides of a person’s character. In fact, “Good Nature” is a package of good qualities. Whatever may be the reason, but now-a-days the girls have understood that “the look” sometime can be deceptive and leads to nowhere. They are looking for the relationship, which provides core values of life such as Love, Respect, Care, and Honesty.

Let us figure out how these qualities are important in life:-

Honesty: -
As it is said that honesty is the best policy. Honesty creates the trust, trust forms the bond, and this bond makes the relationship long lasting and happy.

Care: -
Girls are looking for total attention.  Care means to think about her goodness, her comfort, her well being, her ideology, her attitude. Care indicates complete dedication to her all the time.

Love: -
Without love we cannot live.  As we need food, water, and air to live, love is an added factor to survive blissfully. Love is a basic and the only element that keeps life healthy, happy, and worth living.

Respect: -
Respect is a sense of worth. Girls are looking for a certain level of regards from their life partners. They want to make sure the importance of them in their lives.  Girls are looking for the life partner, who admire her ideology and go along with it.

Look: -
Good look draws most of the girls, but it may not make them happy ultimately. The look can be the window to get into a relationship, but look may not create long lasting relationships. Today, the girls are looking for happy relationships, which is based on good values of life, not on the look of the partner.

And these are the reasons that Beautiful Girls Are Not Looking For Handsome Guys.  Before being attracted, they would weigh up as a complete package of good qualities; they will look for the core values of life in a prospective life partner.

So, normal looking guys with the above qualities certainly have a reason to celebrate, as you’ve got the chance to become a darling of most beautiful woman on this earth.

“...And the Love Story Died…” My entry for the Get Published Contest

The Idea: -

Sudhir Mehta, 48 years of age, well known TV news anchor, divorced since last 20 years, has a 21 years old daughter named Chandni, falls in love with his co-anchor Shwati Singh, half of his age. 

Feeling little odd, many a times, Sudhir tried to express his feelings, but his own reflection in the mirror stopped him by saying: -“You are 48 and she is 26… you are divorced and she is never married… your daughter is 21… she is almost as old as your daughter…”  It was a fact. And every time, Sudhir believed the fact that his reflection told him and dropped the idea of expressing his feelings to Shwati.

One fine evening, at the office party, Shwati came with a plump, bald, and old man. The sagging skin under his chin was posing him around 60 years of age. Both of them came in the center of the hall and Shwati declared that they met before a few months ago - felt that they are made for each other and got married today morning.  She also said that the love can happen at any time, at any age, at any place, and with anyone.

As if the sky fell on Sudhir, before he breaks down, he slipped away from the crowd. In the parking lot he got into his car and burst out into tears intensely. He cried for a long just like a child.

Next day, Shwati was shocked on his resignation. When she compelled him to answer, he said that he has got a better opportunity.

And when he left, the love story died....

What Makes This Story ‘Real’?

I have observed the part of the story that has taken place in my office. I have witnessed the anxiety and pain of improbability.  I just would like to say the readers to be honest, to be open, and truthful. If you feel anything for someone, without any hesitation, let him or her know before it gets too late.

Extract: -

People around them were stunned.

Shwati resumed after a moment: -“Obviously, seeing both of us together, you all must be little amazed…Yes, I am 26 and he is 59. But… let me tell you, if we see the life on a broad spectrum, we all are looking for just one emotion… and that is love… When love happens, we forget all unmatched elements. Some of you may not agree with me, but when you experience the love, you will understand that love has nothing to do with age… If you live with the person you love, no matter whatever may be the age of your partner, the life – even if smaller – would be ‘worth living’. And ultimately, we all are craving for a life that is ‘worth living’...”

Endnote: 

This is my entry for the HarperCollins–IndiBlogger Get Published contest, which is run with inputs from Yashodhara Lal and HarperCollins India.

Relationship Is Just Like Marketing

I generally write about the relationship between man and woman. This post is about marketing. However, if you look closely, marketing is also about maintaining the relationship between service provider and the end user, manufacturer and consumer, and professional and client.

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While gathering, as if sweeping, papers from the table, I twisted my arm, Timex on my wrist was indicating 7:05pm. I hit a key on laptop and inserted the bunch of papers into attaché case, flipped closed my Dell, pulled my chair to Hotel Network System, punched couple of keys and learned that all of the guests have been checked in, as Hotel was “Sold Out”. Since last one and half year, six out of seven days, the Hotel was going packed and as a Manager it made me feel better and better.

Picking up my attaché case, clenching my Dell between my Palm and Fingers, I got up, headed to the door, opened it and was out without bothering to switch the lights off, as the Sensor will put it off after 10 minutes. The sound of closing the door was heard.

Within a few steps, I got to the Front Desk, where a gentleman was literally pleading to Front Desk Agent for a single room of any kind and the Agent was very apologetic as the Hotel was “Sold Out”.

As the gentleman saw me, he told me that as a Manager I must have couple of rooms as special quota and insisted me to get at least one. He was from Connecticut. He didn’t have a plan to fly today but it suddenly happened. He also had tried some other hotels but due to long week end, all the hotels around the area have been sold out. As he didn’t have his car, he was unable to cruise around from one hotel to another and find a room. I felt sorry for him, as he seemed very tired.
  
 “Let me try in some other hotel…”I said without any promise and started calling to the some of my Manager friends. Fortunately, one of them had a Bridal Suite available for the night. Covering my telephone speaker with my palm, I asked with broad smile: “Would you like to sleep in a Bridal Suite just by yourself?” 

He nodded with smile. Though the room was quite expensive, however he didn’t have any other option but to accept.

I told my Manager-Friend to hold the room at least for half an hour.

The gentleman took a sigh of relief, appreciated my efforts and thanked me.

“How will you go?” I asked him.

“I’ll call the cab.” He, lifting his suitcase, told me promptly.

I smiled and told him: - “Gentleman, the cab will take 20 minutes to come and another 20 to get to the hotel. By the time, he may sell your room to someone else. “

He dropped his suitcase back on the floor in despair, as if he lost what he got.

“Come on…” Heading to the parking lot, I waved him to follow me:”I will drop you.”

“Thank you so… much, “He, lifting his suitcase again, said delightedly and followed me.

On the way to the Hotel, we had interesting conversation. He, Geoff Sprouce, was a corporate executive, specialized in turning around the sinking companies. He had a contract with a company in the area and he was going to work there for long time. I dropped him at the Hotel. He checked in. I met my Manager-Friend, chatted for a while and then Left.

Next day, in the evening, when I was leaving for the day, I saw Geoff getting out of the Cab in the parking lot. I waited to talk to him. He paid to the cab and came to me, told me that he already had checked in my Hotel before going to office and he was so happy with the quality of the room that he wanted to extend for the whole of the month. We both came back in the hotel. I gave him a better deal and he extended his stay for a month.

After that day, we became friends. Almost every evening he looked for me and we chatted about pin to plane. He was a delight to talk with. 

He stayed for one and half year. After couple of months, I even advised him to rent an apartment, which could be cheaper than this room. He smiled:-“Yes I can, but you won’t be there…“ That was a great compliment. During his stay, he introduced six of his friends, who stayed couple of days every week for a long time. I received quite good business from his recommendations.

 When I met him first time, I had never expected anything. As time passed, what I got was beyond my expectation.  

No matter what you do, selling a product, rendering service or promoting yourself, marketing means to go beyond the expectations of your customer, client, guest or your employer. Period. 

Relationship is also just like marketing. You just have to give and keep on giving without any expectation. If you do so, sooner or later, you will also get “beyond” your expectation. Believe Me! ;)

Falling In Love Is Easy, Sustaining Is Difficult...

Falling In Love Is Easy, Sustaining Is Difficult...

As per our mythological scripture, God created a Man (Adam). There wasn’t any other creature to identify with him. So God formed a woman as man’s companion. Gradually longing to be together was born between Man and Woman. By the time passed, longing turned into an attraction and being attracted to each other was named as Love. This love later became the integral part of our existence. And then with the evolution of mankind, human became self centered. Loving and being loved turned out to be complex.

However, today, love is stimulated by the waves of infatuation. By creating artificial personality and putting a little extra effort, one can compel other to fall in love. But as and when the real persona of one surface, other feels a bump and frustration gets in and Love starts disappointing. Instead of bonding, disagreement takes place in our relationship.

The reason is, in today’s society, everyone carries the bundle of expectations on their heads and package of dreams in their eyes. Everyone is taming identical ideology. Amid this environment, falling in love often seems quite easy, but sustaining the same love has become a bit difficult.

If we try to figure out honestly, we will observe that the problem lies within us only. We are holding out our attitude, our rigid views in our hands and they don’t allow us to give up.

In the midst of this situation, there is a hope. By practicing few behavioral elements, one can sustain love truly.

Let’s try to comprehend how can we do it?

Surrender:
The first and foremost step is to surrender. Get out of self-centered attitude. Throw away the selfish views and so called self esteem. Get all negative aspects out of the life. Certainly, it is difficult; but not impossible.

Conversation:
Talk. Talk to each other positively. Talk to resolve the crisis. Blaming will worsen the situation. Positive conversation will carve the way out to the path of resolution.

Understand:
It’s been long you have been walking on the wrong way thinking about yourself. If you try to understand what your partner is looking for out of the relationship, half of the crisis will be resolved immediately.

Have Patience:
Patience is a weapon that is always compelling others to realize. Have patience, as this change over of personality takes time. Rush will stop the process of change over.

Compromise:
When reaching to the conclusion, avoid sticking to your guns rigidly. Confrontation at all times worsens the situation and takes you back to the square. If you compromise, your partner will also follow you.

Giveaway:
Give Away! Don’t expect anything in return while you give away. If both of the partners tries to give something away to each other without any expectation, both of the partners will get more or less what they are looking for.

Conclusion:
You’re not going to get the life ever again. With the due respect to each other understand and love your partner at your best. Love is the only element that keeps your relationship healthy and life worth living.

RELATIONSHIP by Ananth Vitlani

Hi, I am Ananth Vitlani, responsible for all writing on this blog.

Friends, I believe our existence is based on relationship. We will not be alive, if we are not related to each other in this world. Here I will write about relationships...Relationship between man & woman and human & human.
When I think of relationship, I would certainly like to talk about some of the elements of relationship : Fascination of First Sight, Chemistry of Attraction, Reason of Infatuation, Language of Eyes, Warmth of Embrace, Fragrance of Breath, Taste of Lips, Tangles of Hair, Curves of Body, Intoxication of Perspiration, Expression of Feeling, Sweetness of Waiting, Tenderness of Petals, Price of Obsession, Size of Dreams, Euphoria of Love, Bond of Relationship, Rapture of Marriage, Pain of Heartbreak, Twinge of Parting Away, Heat of Tears, Sound of Cry, and all other relationship related "to-do-s", "not-to-do-s", and “how to do-s”, (not that “how to do”…Baby!!!!).

Friends, Keep in touch, I will bring you some fascinating, intriguing, and unbelievable elements of the relationship.

Thank you so much for visiting my space and reading me.

And yes, if you like my writing, leave your comments, positive as well as negative. Your positive comments will inspire me to write better and your negative comments will help me improve myself.

So please, please, do leave your comments.

'Till you come back, keep loving. If you don't have, find someone because Love keeps you happy, healthy and makes your life worth living.

Once again thankful to you,

Romantically yours,

Ananth Vitlani